Monday, May 10, 2004

Georgia county still holds racially themed proms

from today's AP wire-- i've heard that this is a common practice to discourage interracial dating/ Associated Press

LYONS, Ga. - A high school in south Georgia held three different proms - one each for whites, blacks and Hispanics.

The proms for seniors and juniors were private parties, but some students attended more than one of the events, said Ralph Hardy, principal for Toombs County High School.

Students in Toombs County, about 160 miles southeast of Atlanta, have had segregated black and white proms since schools were integrated in 1971, said school board member Needum Rogers.

This year, a group of Hispanic students added their own prom, which was held Saturday - the day after the white students' event. Three weeks before that, black students held their prom.

Yuri Flores said she started pushing for a Hispanic prom after she tried to buy tickets for the white prom. A girl with the prom committee wanted to know if her date was white, black or Hispanic.

Her friend, a white student named Jennifer Hart, also was asked the same question.

"She told me that it was a white prom - not a Mexican prom, not a black prom," Hart told The Atlanta Journal-Constitution. "It made me feel mad. That's not right. I wanted to put my fist in her face."

Parents and students in a few counties in Georgia still organize separate proms for whites and blacks after school systems stopped sponsoring dances, in part because they wanted to avoid problems arising from interracial dating.

In Toombs County, there were no complaints from students after the three proms, Hardy said.

"All three had all three races. They were integrated," he said. "They were not exclusive. As far as I know, things went well."

Officials didn't know how many of the school's 270 seniors and juniors attended each of the proms.

Toombs County is 56 percent white, 31 percent black and 12 percent Hispanic.

Superintendent Kendall Brantley said it was up to the students to decide who they want to socialize with.

"People go out in various restaurants, and they like particular things when they get there. That's the way it is with kids. They pick and choose where they want to go and who they want to party with."

The Interracial Dating Book for BW Who Want to Date WM

The author of this book would make a fascinating subject, but he published under a pseudonym and all of his email addresses are defunct. The book is self-published, but I've had a few feelers out for a couple of weeks, and I feel that one will bite.

Here's the amazon.com link:
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1581128002/qid=1084239161/sr=8-1/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i1_xgl14/002-1478560-6856811?v=glance&s=books&n=507846

They say that there's only one copy, which I purchase as a means of getting in contact (hopefully) with the author, "Adam White." Either way, it's something that I found a coupe of months ago and it's on my MUST READ list.

Some of the other books specifically on interracial dating that I will or am already checking out include:
Coping With Interracial Dating (Coping) by Renea D. Nash (1997)
Interracial Dating and Marriage by Elaine Landau
By the Color of Our Skin: The Illusion of Integration and the Reality of Race by Leonard Steinhorn, Barbara Diggs-Brown (2000)
Just Don't Marry One: Interracial Dating, Marriage, and Parenting by George A. Yancey, Sherelyn Whittum Yancey
Mixed Matches by Ph.D. Joel Crohn
The Real Deal : Real Love Is More Than Skin Deep...Real Passion Isn't Black Or White by Margaret Johnson-Hodge
Multiracial Couples : Black & White Voices by Terri Karis
Crossing the Racial Divide : Close Friendships Between Black and White Americans by Kathleen Odell Korgen
How to Marry A Black Man by Monique Jellerette deJongh, Cassandra Marshall Cato-Louis
Forbidden Love: The Secret History of Mixed Race America by Gary B. Nash
The Color Complex by Ph.D. Midge Wilson
Interzones: Black/White Sex Districts in Chicago and New York in the Early Twentieth Century by Kevin Mumford
Interracialism : Black-White Intermarriage in American History, Literature, and Law by Werner Sollors
Unlikely Couples: Movie Romance As Social Criticism (Thinking Through Cinema, 2)
by Thomas E. Wartenberg

also:
From Black to Biracial by Kathleen Odell Korgen
Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together In The Cafeteria? And Other Conversations About Race: A Psychologist Explains the Development of Racial Identity, Revised edition by Beverly Daniel Tatum
Whatever Happened to Daddy's Little Girl? : The Impact of Fatherlessness on Black Women by JONETTA ROSE BARRAS
A Member of the Club : Reflections on Life in a Racially Polarized World by Lawrence Otis Graham
White Reign : Deploying Whiteness in America by Joe Kincheloe, Shirley Steinberg,Nelson Rodriguez, Ronald Chennault
Interracial Intimaciesby Randall Kennedy
The Making and Unmaking of Whiteness by Birgit Brander Rasmussen
The Assassination of the Black Male Image by Earl Ofari Hutchinson
In Search Of Our Mothers' Gardens: Womanist Prose by Alice Walker
Check All That Apply: Finding Wholeness as a Multiracial Person by Sundee Tucker Frazier
White Trash: Race and Class in America by Matt Wray & Annalee Newitz

Relevant Online Communities

(Partital List -- I have many more than I will add, and indicate those who I have been in contact with.)

International Interracial Association: http://www.i3n.net/

Internet Resource for Interracial Relationships http://www.pollywannacracka.com/

www.MixedRace.com

www.LightSkin.com

www.Tolerance.org

Interracial Voice (defunct, but interesting) http://www.webcom.com/~intvoice/

www.Multiracial.com

There are also numerous sites for those seeking to date interracially. I'll organize and post them.

Subject Categories (Will Overlap)

**Hot Buttons
a) would consider dating but haven’t
b) have dated but wouldn’t marry
c) have not and would never consider dating
d) have and would never consider dating in the future
e) friends and family supportive
f) friends and family unsupportive
g) *significant other has a racist family/friends
h) *subject has a racist family/friends
I) *opposed to all intimate interracial relations
j) *divorced/split because of race
k) divorced / split for other reasons
l) *would only date person of another race
m) dating /married happily or unhappily
n) *subject is product of BW/WM relationship with positive /negative experience overall

Storyline/Topics Notes for Taboo

warning: (contains raw thoughts, streams of consciousness and fragments) List in progress.

BM/WM relationships, although previously rare are on the rise. Why were they rare before, and why are they on the rise now?

Historical BG: WW as the paradigm of true womanhood (Victorian cult of true womanhood); BW as the anti-woman /mule of society. Black=Ugly: Mammy/Jezebel/Sapphire stereotypes Sojourner Truth: Ain’t ?I a Woman. WW as the Prize. Emmett Till and such murders.

Why were/are BW so resistant to look elsewhere for love? Is it the same reasons why BW have been so resistant to confronting sexism in the black community/church/? Fears of castrating the BM. The Moynihan Report. BW taking a backseat in Civil Rights movement. Stokely Carmichaels’ Prone Comment. “Conspiracy to Destroy Black Boys.”

Current So-called Eligible BM Shortage. College vs. Jail. Stats.

Exoticism/Otherness

Modern White Guilt vs. Current Conservative Climate

The Hard Questions: Self-Hatred? (Re: Hair, Skin, Lips, Difference)
What do we have to prove? Do we owe “blackness” anything? What is “selling out”? From what? Does selling out exist?

Who is likely to be in these relationships and why? Are pressures internal or external? If external, from whom? If internal-- what/how/why?

Who is opposed to these relationships and why?

Are people still asking in 2004, what about the children?

What about “positive” reactions/comments that are unhealthy or a reflection of self-hatred? “You’re moving up in the world by dating a WM?” “Your kids’ll have an easier time.” “You’ll have prettier kids.” “You’re so black that you should marry white/light and have good hair etc.”

The social construction of race. Fixedness. One-dropness. How do other societies view this? Is there anywhere in the world currently where Ebony/African beauty is prized?

Differences between those who by chance found love with someone of a different race and those who only sought love with a specific race?

Fetishizing. Asking spouse to use racial slurs during sex. Spouse using slurs in anger.

Feelings of guilt/race trading/selling out. Embarrassment of spouse/relationship.

How do subjects feel about their own race?

What race, if any, will you consider your kids? Why? Do you care who they marry?

What tends to be the social groups of those in BW/WM relationships?

Is the couple completely liberal; and prejudice free (or make an effort to be) as a couple?